The Nutrition Facts of Our “Second Love” by Amrita Dhami

What are the different types of love?

If you’re as much into proverbs as I am, then you may have heard the famous adage by Kate Rose about love:

“Often our first is when we are young, high school even. It’s the idealistic love; the one that seems like the fairytales we are all read as children. It’s a love that looks right. The second is supposed to be our hard love; the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how often we want or need to be loved. Sometimes it’s unhealthy, unbalanced, or narcissistic even. It’s the love we wished was right. And the third is the love we never see coming. The one that usually comes dressed as all wrong for us and that destroys any lingering ideas we clung to about what love is supposed to be. It’s the love that just feels right.” 

Why is meeting our “second love” important?

Most of us aren’t fortunate enough to only experience a love that has solely benefitted us. In some form or the other, the vast majority of us have undergone a noxious love — whether romantic or not — that has permanently damaged us. However, this is the beauty of life: to learn, to grow, and to rise from the ashes. After all, what fun would life be if everything was so predictable and easy? 

The human ego is fragile. With resilience comes strength, and we never truly learn the vital lessons of life unless we confront them for ourselves. Because of this, if you do experience the pernicious “second love,” consider it a blessing in disguise; you will have the opportunity to reflect and become stronger, you will become closer with your friends and loved ones, you will learn how to forgive and be more empathetic, and you will discover what you really want in life. If you haven’t, however, allow me to relay the situation through the description of your favorite unhealthy meal, which is something that everybody can relate to.  

A Relatable Example of the Fundamental “Second Love”

You stumble upon one serving of your new favorite meal that ruins your life, yet makes you happy, and takes you years to give up because of how addicting it is. This one huge serving entails 1,430,000 calories (143 means “I love you”) and boasts a weight of 72,575 g (160 lbs). At a whopping 5,729 g of trans fats, 368,271 mg of cholesterol, 59,192 g of saturated fats, and a total of 48,013 g of fats, you obviously know that this delicacy isn’t good for your (mental, emotional, and physical) health, but you continue to indulge in it because some batches of the treat that you receive have 3,083 g of added sugars that keep you addicted and leave you wanting more. This particular meal, however, does boast some health benefits for you, because, at 103,582 g of protein and 101,984 g of dietary fiber, it leaves you feeling fulfilled, thriving, and satisfied. This food contains equal measures of sodium and sugar, at 5,289,000 mg of sodium and 5,289 g of sugar, respectively. This is what puzzles you. At times, this confection is “sweet” with the occasional 3,083 grams of added sugar that keeps you craving it, but for the most part, this poison-for-food is a perfect blend of being both cloy and brackish, leaving you utterly confused as to what it is about this disgusting, sickly snack that makes you devour it to your heart’s content. To make matters worse, this meal contains a total of 381,283 g of carbohydrates, and like all other confections that are high in both carbohydrates and sugars – such as doughnuts – this treat brings you comfort. After tolerating, hating, and loving this meal for far too long, you realize that you have become a victim to its toxicity, and even though there’s a part of you that dreads giving this delicacy up, you must kick it to the curb for the sake of your health. 

The long-term effects of meeting your second love:

For the rest of your life, you despise this meal for what it has done to your health, yet you yearn for it at times because of the few benefits that it did give you and for all of the positive memories that you had with it. However, you mustn’t crumble. Instead, you must embody stoicism and dignity, for your newfound strength is the reason the universe made you encounter this meal in the first place. And that, ladies and gentleman, is “second love.”

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